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Goodbye old friend

Postby silverbullet » 13 Feb 2020, 11:19

I buried my dog yesterday. I wasnt looking forward to it, even though that I knew the day would surely arrive.

Benson was 14½ and led a life that was well-lived. As a 9-month old rescue, he had already been through a couple of foster homes and my brother in law had taken him in after the adoption agents had lied "he's fine with cats"
We knew that if he went back, the future was bleak, so we took him on.

Neurotic, needy, spoiled, overweight, destructive, food theif, escape artist, shouty, he had the lot. A real-life "Marley"

We cured most of his badness but never stopped the shouting at mealtimes. Or before walks.

He had been getting slow on walks for a long while, then our new vets diagnosed kidney failure and anaemia. His time was up.

We were all in bits once the vets had left our home, but they were very good. It was peaceful. The house is a lot quieter, even with the other three about the place.

Here's a recent happy photo of the old sod.Image

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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby diabolov » 13 Feb 2020, 11:35

Sorry for your loss. It's never easy having to say goodbye.

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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby Oldiebut goodie » 13 Feb 2020, 12:10

It is never easy when the time comes but they will always live on in your memory. I still think of my dog that I lost to distemper 57 years ago.
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby Ant-t » 13 Feb 2020, 12:17

Sorry to hear that, we get very attached to them.
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby ajsimmo » 13 Feb 2020, 12:48

Really sorry to hear this, Ian. Only dog people fully understand the profound sense of loss when you lose your mutt-mate, and I can tell from your words that he was well loved and had a full and happy life. Hopefully you can take some comfort in that you did your very best for him.

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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby Porkscratching » 13 Feb 2020, 13:32

Loving the recent picture. When I lost my DubDog my only regret was that I didn't take / have more pictures of him. Imagine my joy when I recently found a host of pictures on some early CF cards.

I am with the others who understand and feel your pain and loss.

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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby R0B » 13 Feb 2020, 13:50

Sorry to hear this. I am sure you gave him the best life he could have had. :cry:
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby Splurt » 13 Feb 2020, 14:25

Sorry for your loss. Great photo, you can see the happiness in his expression.

I dread this moment and am now going back to suppressing the thought lalalalala.

Also fair dues for taking him on. I disagree with anyone buying a puppy when there are so many needing rehomed. Rescues all the way.
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby evilnoodle » 13 Feb 2020, 18:22

There are tears in my eyes writing this as I am dreading the day we lose our May. She is probably about 15 now so that day is getting ever closer.
I feel your pain :(
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby scottbott » 13 Feb 2020, 20:26

I feel for you as we went through the same thing nearly two years and 'Boris' is still missed every day, it really is a hard thing to go through
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby Mr Bean » 13 Feb 2020, 21:46

Yes I know how you feel having had four dogs spend their lives with us one after the other over the years - all sleeping in their kennels throughout the winter and welcome in the house during the day. All rescue dogs - all living to a ripe old age. One of them - Butch - spent eighteen years with us. Taking them with us on holiday was always a treat interrupted only occasionally by such things a sheep "herding" at Doone Valley, taking on the odd farm dog - sometimes two or nearly dragging me off the cliffs at the valley of the rocks.
Though I was a hard nut but... Anyway we too ancient now to take on another.
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby PeteandNikki » 13 Feb 2020, 22:44

Only another ‘dog’ person can know the feeling and understand that it’s possible to hurt so much over the loss of an animal. Having lived with and lost 3 over the last 30years I know the depth of upset that you are going through.

My only consolation was that, compared with the loss of a human family member, the time taken for the hurt to subside, was, for me a lot less.

I also consider myself to be a fairly robust character, but my children saw another side of me the first time we lost a dog (aged 15)
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby slowcoach » 14 Feb 2020, 09:09

Very Sorry Ian. I'm not a dog person, but there's no denying the bonds they make with families.
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby Jim San » 14 Feb 2020, 10:41

May he rest in piece. Sorry for your loss, I know all too well the pain you are feeling right now :(
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Re: Goodbye old friend

Postby silverbullet » 14 Feb 2020, 14:22

Thanks everyone. Not devastated, just a little sadness has fallen for a while.
Their lives are brief and we should never try to fool ourselves otherwise.
A dog is for life.

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